Saturday, February 9, 2008

"Rock On"!

Michael passed away in our Los Angeles home on Friday, February 8, at 1:48pm. With him were his mother and sister Kathleen, our friend Doug and I. He was surrounded by love and his exit from this life was just the way he wanted it – PDQ! On all levels, he was ready to go.

I was truly never looking forward to the day that I would be logging on to Michael’s blog so that I could communicate messages to the world about this wonderful human being, but today I find myself carrying out all of Michael’s wishes. And although I may not write as creatively and beautifully as Michael has when creating this blog, I am going to give it my best shot by expressing only some of the wonderfulness that this man shared with everyone.

For Michael, the glass was always full and he lived a life of possibility with a commitment to living life like it’s never been before. When you have that kind of intention, it opens you up for a life of excitement and one full of adventure. And I must tell you that my 11 years with Michael was just that! -- exciting, adventurous, never boring and always evolving! Michael believed in learning about the world by seeing it and his passion for travel got him to many far-away places that I am fortunate to have shared with him.

Michael had this unique ability to love that came so deep from the bottom of his heart that it almost created this angelic glow when he smiled. With his beautiful blue eyes and his bright smile, it melted the hearts of many, including mine. I have been forever blessed to have been loved by him because I truly believe you only get one love that can shake you to your core or one where there is a meeting of the souls so that each can love and support one another in order to grow individually and together as a couple. Michael was an extremely generous man who would give anything just to feel love in return. Michael believed that love has the ability to conquer all.

After Michael’s last entry right before he left Pittsburgh, he wrote much about his family and I wanted to post a response to it, but time slipped away once he returned to LA. When comparing my family to Michael’s family, it’s like the Sopranos visiting Walton Farm. The Emery family, which consists of many nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles and great aunts, is one of the most loving, caring and simple families I have ever come to know. They’re intelligent, they’re witty, and they are family in the truest definition of the word. It has and always will be an honor to be in their warm presence.

Even in Michael’s last hour, he shared his great sense of humor with us once again. With his body failing and weak, we had to move him from a recliner to the bed so that we could lay him on his side in order for him to breathe easier. At that point I was afraid it would be my body that would be failing and weak, so together with Doug, Kathleen and I, we picked up the thick blanket underneath Michael and on the count of three we flung him up onto the bed. Happy that he did not have to get out of the chair and onto the bed in the traditional way, once he landed on the bed, with his arm in the air and fist clenched, he blurted out, “Rock On”!

And so to our many friends, family and readers of this site, I hope that you have found this man to be as inspirational as I have and that you’ll always remember that no matter whatever you may be presented with in your life, please remember Michael's philosophy and his final words of wisdom: Live, Love and “ROCK ON”!

12 comments:

Anonymous said...

Dear Bobby,
I have never had the pleasure to know Michael, but I do know the McGlaughlin family quite well. I wholeheartedly agree that they are some of the best folk you'd be lucky to meet in all your life. Knowing what I do about Michael from his Blog and his family, his departure from our lifetime feels like an unbearable loss.I wish you and his family much love and support during this time of mourning and healing. "Rock On" is a truly inspirational way to live-out one's life. I hope that I will be as brave. Warmest personal Regards, Helene McQuaide

Rich Kacin said...

Dear Bobby:
Having only just met you an hour ago at the Funeral home in Brentwood, I was struck by the amount of love I felt from you. I introduced myself to you and you were very cordial to me. We spoke for a few moments about Michael and my time with him many years ago, when he was new to everything and everyone. After reading the blog info and seeing the history layed out here, I am so very grateful that Michael found you and was able to have you in his life, especially through the illness and at his end of days.
How brave he and you both have been. A testament to the old adage of: " The quality of Life being more important than the quantity of it". I saw no sadness in this story. What a truely marvelous journey he had. His love touched everyone he ever came in contact with. His family should take pride in the values instilled in him. Somewhere along the line everything went right for him. Over the years, I had often wondered how he did in life, now I see he could not have possibly done better.
Be strong and know you did good with him. I know I am better for having known Michael. I shall never forget him nor will I forget the sense of stability and committment that he found in you.

Richard P. Kacin

Anonymous said...

Dear Aunt Hoop and gang and Bobby, Though I've known you guys since my conception, Our paths have not been as close in the latter years. But I always feel an immediate warm as though we were just together. I was feeling so bad for you having to have a funeral on Valentines Day, but as I sat in church I realized this was the epitome of LOVE! To watch your family support each other and radiate this love out to all involved was so refreshing! I am sure it was how Mike would have wanted! May you continue to find strength. Love, Linda
PS. Vicki wants to wear flip flops, too. Thanks for encouraging us to be who we trully are!

Anonymous said...

I really wish I new my Uncle Mike better, or even went out to see him in LA like I always planned. But just from this blog I feel closer to him than I ever really have. He was so lucky to have you, the way you cared for him really touches me. I hope to see you in March, finally my first trip to LA.

- his niece, Michelle

Anonymous said...

DEAR MICHAEL AND BOBBY..

A DOG LOVER!!!!

WHATMORE HAS TO BE SAID. I BET ST. PETER HAD THOSE GATES OPEN AND READY FOR HIM.

JORGE ADRIAN VERGARA

Sunshine said...

Rainbow,

It is always hard to loose someone special but it is EASY to remember and cherish the imprint on the souls in which Michael left to all those who knew and loved him.

Thank you for continuing his legacy!

Anonymous said...

Bobby (aka Pony)--

Michael would have loved the memorial service you put together---what a tribute to incredible soul, by another incredible human being.

When all those yellow balloons were released into the sky, I couldn't help but think of the song "Never Die Young" by James Taylor. It's all about those "golden people" that we admire as they go through life.

The final lyrics go:

"I guesss it had to happen someday soon..
Wasn't nothing to held them down.
They would rise from among us like a big balloon--
Take the sky, forsake the ground.

Oh yes, other hearts were broken.
Yeah, other dreams ran dry,
But our golden ones sail on, sail on...
To another land, beneath another sky."

Couldn't have said it better myself...

Love,
Zago

Anonymous said...

Dear Bobby,

I'm really sorry for the your loss and the loss of Michael's family. I am a friend of Michael's from high school and currently live in New Orleans. I am at a loss for words here, which does not usually happen.

Michael was the first gay peson that I ever met. His courage changed my life in many ways. My partner and I have been together for 25 years now, but it all started with a courageous teen age boy in Pittsburgh.

With his passing, I feel like he is changing my life, yet again. There have been a lot of things that I have been putting off both spiritually and physically. Michael has really inspired me to get moving. I have been using Michael's memorial card as a bookmark so that I can think about him and talk to him everyday.

I was truly inspired by Michael's entries and yours. I know that it won't be easy, but I hope that we all can face the future with the strength and love that you and Michael did.

Peace,

Brian Haney

Anonymous said...

Dear Bobby,
It has taken me many months to have enough strength to log onto this website again. I cried everytime I opened it up and still cannot believe that we have lost such an incredible and beautiful soul. You both touched my life in an incredible way and I will never forget us all watching the CNN, when the Tsunami hit Asia. All cuddled up on the lounge floor, I felt true friendship and harmonious souls.Thank you for supporting Michael and thank you for sharing the times with us in Africa. Michael's love and character will travel with me through many lifetimes and I look forward to the time we can soar together again. Warmest regards and love. Laurence Dehlen

Anonymous said...

Dear Bobby and to all Michael's family and friends,
I just found this blog tonight. My husband died of liver cancer in October 2006. So much of what Michael wrote resonates with what my husband experienced and how he lived his life, especially during the last few months. Yes, be awake to the preciousness of each moment and each person in our lives!
And for we who remain - there's the double-edged sword of memories (the pain of loss and also the incredible joy of having the person we loved forever rooted in our hearts). Bobby, take care of yourself. Hugs, Mary

Anonymous said...

Bobby,
It was great to spin with you again Saturday. It just brought a flood of memories of Michael. I must admit I've experienced a lot of loss, but it is never easy especially with one so young and vibrant. I've been here before and God know we'll have to experience this even more as we grow older. I am blessed, and you were too... clearly. i alway envied the beauty the two of you shared!

Arnold

Friends of Luke and Nancy said...

Dear Bobby,

You are in my thoughts today as we remember Michael's passing a year ago.

He is missed!

Love,

Jay